I’ve paused a dozen times writing this blog, not necessarily because I didn’t know what to say I mean I could go on at length about feeling like I haven’t been wanted ...
No, I didn’t want this to be a downer post, and as many times as I started to write this I wound up in tears feeling like I had no meaningful thing to conclude.
I was still stuck feeling unwanted.
It wasn’t until I came across one of those “suggested posts” on my insta and I got the random urge to flip through the infographic that it dawned on me.
I was so stuck feeling unwanted, unvalued, unappreciated, and well... grossly unprepared for that avalanche of feeling, that I couldn’t see the freedom that came in being free.
So what is the story?
Bare with me because I know I will simply further it but it was this:
When his daughter was born the new father bought her a car. He kept the car in the garage for years and year turning it on and tuning it up as needed. When that girl grew up and graduated high school the father gave her the car.
Proud of his daughter and eager to give her the gift he took her to the garage, lifted off the tarp, and revealed a dusty old car.
Surprised at it’s age and a little take a back by the offer, the daughter didn’t know what to say or do with the car.
Her dad paused a moment and suggested she should sell it, but before she did he told her to get quotes and prices.
The first place she went was a used car dealership where she was offered $1,000 for a quick trade in.
After being dismayed she took it to the pawn shop where they offered her $100 because it was dirty and old.
Finally, her dad suggested she take it to the car show. When she returned she told her father she had been offered $100,000 because it was a rare vehicle in good condition (if you looked past the dust).
You see, the right people will value you the right way.
So don’t get angry when you feel undervalued by the people around you, they simply aren’t the right people. Don’t get stuck in a place where no one sees your worth, that’s not the right place for you.
The right people, the right place, the right opportunity will not only value you, but lift you and encourage you to reach your full potential.
You see, that car never changed, she didn’t clean it up and go back to the pawn shop with it hoping for a little more, she didn’t change the tires and go back to the dealership wondering if the trade-in value would improve, she went where she was wanted, where people were looking for THAT car and would give it the respect it was due.
Your worthiness, your value, isn’t determined by those around you and if you feel like you are waiting and working harder and harder for someone to recognize your worth, than you might be in the wrong place.
NOW, before this causes a landslide of divorce because you’re going through some rocky, less than rosy times with your husband, please know, I am not giving marital advice here!
I am simply saying, if you are in a group of friends or you are at a job where you feel invisible, where you feel like no one appreciates your value and effort, it may be time to change gears, change gangs, and go where you’re wanted, where you’ll be appreciated, where they understand that you are a freaking rockstar!
Those who don’t want you, who pretend you don’t matter, they don’t deserve you.
So break free, find yourself the car show where people who understand what a 1961 Ferrari 250 GT California SWB Spider is, and go there (I had no idea what that was I 100% asked Dusty) and it’s worth $17.16 MILLION dollars, A CAR, a 60 year old car for crying out loud!